Shaken Not Stirred: Tea Talk with Jo
“While you wait on that husband of yours sis, please check yourself.”
All I see down my timeline on social media is, “Where is my husband?” While you wait ladies, are you preparing yourselves?
One thing about me, I’ve always been pretty good at taking accountability for my own actions (the “good” of being a perfectionist). It’s hard to admit when we’re wrong, but in my opinion, it’s the only way we will progress, elevate, and become better individuals.
I spent a good amount of time blaming my ex-husband for our marriage failing. How he cheated and how I was so faithful, loyal, honest, and how I was oh so phenomenal at communicating, etc. I felt that I was a great wife and was taken for granted. When it was all over all I wanted to talk about next was how my next man needs to “Bring it”.
I told myself I refuse to settle and my standards are going way up! It was at that moment I realized if I expect all this from my next husband…then what would he expect of me?
EFF ALL MY GOOD QUALITIES! I NEED TO FIX WHERE I’M EFFED UP AT OR ELSE I WONT MEET MY NEW HUSBAND’S STANDARDS! LOL
I decided that I would take accountability for being a lazy wife. I wasn’t always lazy, but sometimes I would go months without cooking. Not because I couldn’t, but simply because when I didn’t cook, he did so I was like, “shiiiiit 😏 as long as he don’t crab, I am not saying!” Ha ha.
I’m not a dirty person, but I didn’t always keep the house up. I also would go weeks without having sexy time. I’m tired, came home to kids, worked with kids, etc. I cannot and will not take any responsibility for his cheating, but I take accountability for definitely contributing to his frustration with me that possibly led him to cheat. I spent the entire time during my separation preparing myself to not only be a better woman, but a qualified wife as well. I changed my bad cleaning and cooking habits and became the tidiest person I’d ever been and cooking became so consistent. I spent months reflecting and changing. I’m still doing that now.
My next husband is going to be a happy man! Whoever he is! Where is my husband!? lol So ladies (AND MEN)! While you ask where is my husband/ wife? Have you taken accountability? Are you working to fix those things while you wait? It’s not always just about being faithful and loyal. Trust me. I know. Some of us have so much to work on, but want it so badly. We are too stubborn, in denial, or to immature to admit our responsibility in situations that failed. Dig deep and fix you. It may hurt a little to see the wrong in you, but it’s worth it. You may never find or be able to keep that special partner if you don’t. They have expectations too.
By: Johyko Rodriguez
“Edgy, real, eclectic and vibrant are just some of the words that describe Johyko Rodriguez. Hailing from Queens, New York, she is a current South Florida resident living a hectic lifestyle as a single mother of three. Her passion for life, culture, art, design and self-empowerment has led her to write about the world around her in the hopes of promoting the virtues of abundant living and free speech.”